Do you know what the body’s largest sex organ is?
If you guessed the skin, you are correct! To enhance your pleasure, get to know the skin you are in. If you know what pleases you, you will be more prepared to share with your partner how you want to be touched. One way to learn more about how you can receive the most pleasure is through a technique called body mapping. This can be done with or without a partner.
Body mapping is an exploratory tour of your body (every square inch) to discover the most sensitive parts. In the process of discovery, your job is to find out how you like to be touched-hard, soft, feathery, firm. You may also discover that there are certain types of contact you like in some areas more than others, such as kissing, rubbing, being blown on, pinched, or rubbed. You may want to also experiment with lube and/or a vibrator while reading Jewrotica.
Pay attention to how your body responds. For example, what parts tingle or become more sensitive during this exploration? In her 2010 book Women’s Anatomy of Arousal, sex therapist Sheri Winston says, “Many of the most wonderful parts of your genital system will only become evident when they’re aroused, producing the delightful swelling called engorgement.” In other words, through this technique of self or partnered arousal, we can discover pleasure spots that we didn’t even know we had. This essential technique sets the foundation for completely knowing how you enjoy being touched. It is an important first step to knowing yourself and building a pleasurable sexual relationship with a partner.
Do you know what the body’s most important sex organ is?
If you guessed the brain, you are correct! The brain is responsible for interpreting our five senses-sight, hearing, touch, smell, and taste. Therefore, when it comes to sex and pleasure, the brain can play a big part in heightening our sensations. For example, something as simple as whispering something sexy in your partner’s ear can initiate the sexual response cycle. This is a term for describing the phases our bodies go through in response to sexual stimulation, and it is often associated with stimuli from the five senses.
The desire phase (the first phase in the cycle) begins in response to various sensual stimuli, which come in a wide assortment of possibilities. This phase can last a long time-hours to days…even months. To enhance sexual pleasure, take your time to build and foster the desire. The earlier you or your partner start preparing for great sex, the more likely you will both start feeling sexually aroused. In fact, why not start planning right now? Instead of bringing your partner flowers, chocolate, or sexy lingerie when you see him or her, send them a few hours before you arrive (these items work just as well for men as they do for women!). The anticipation can be a great turn on. Just thinking about sex in advance can set you and your partner into the second stage of the sexual response cycle: excitement.
Here are some more ideas for getting each other in the mood using the five senses to build desire:
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The Jewrotica event “Evening of Jewrotica: Bedside Reading” was awesome. As Master of Confessions, I got to read the deepest, darkest secrets of people in the room out loud… It was scintillating, titillating, and – yes – even educational!
I love the inclusiveness – there is something for everyone, in and out of the Jewish community.
The people behind Jewrotica are quite quality! I have confidence that any project these folks take on will be equally quality.
Bedside Reading with Jewrotica was funny, sexy, and hot all at once. The readings were honest about all kinds of sexuality, but the highlight of the evening was definitely the confessions, written by audience participants. Nobody knew who wrote them, and most were tell-alls that would make your bubbe blush. Unless your bubbe was very, very cool. Then maybe she’d make YOU blush!
Jewrotica is a great way to ask interesting questions about the interplay between sensuality and Jewish wisdom. Check it out.
Jewrotica is awesome. It expands the mind and for people who were raised with narrow views on sexuality. Whether you are Jewish or not, or in different sects of Judaism like Orthodox, Conservative or Reform, no matter what your background or where you’re from, Jewrotica gets you to see Judaism and how it relates to sexuality in new ways. I really appreciate Ayo being here and helping us learn different ways to connect with our sexuality.
Learning about sex and what’s right and wrong when it comes to sex from a Biblical standpoint was an eye opening experience. I completely enjoyed it and think something like this could be a very cool thing to bring to even high school aged Jewish youth groups.
I’m so glad that Jewrotica is represented here at Jewlicious! It’s bringing voices that need to be heard in the Jewish discussion and Jewish climate environment.
At Jewrotica’s Evening of Bedside Readings, students declaimed monologues on sexual encounters that had a Jewish twist. At Columbia/Barnard Hillel, the speakers pushed their own boundaries by performing a range of explicit narratives that challenged how the audience thought of the relationship to Judaism and sex. During the speakers’ preparation, the arguments about which narratives would be appropriate forced students to take a stand and voice their opinion on their own beliefs about Judaism an… Read more
While many people fear the “sex talk,” Jewrotica offers an opportunity for writers and audiences to speak about sexuality in a open and safe space. When I attended a Jewrotica reading, I heard stories that reminded me that love takes many forms, and that expressing it is a vital part of who we are as a people.
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