Written by Mara Yacobi. Mara, a certified sexuality educator and licensed social worker, is Jewrotica’s resident sex educator. Check out Mara’s article on Why Jewish Kids Need Values-Based Sex Ed.
Rambam once said, “God did not create anything that is ugly or shameful. If the sexual organs are said to be shameful, how can it be said that the Creator fashioned something blemished?“*
I’m delighted to be your resident sex educator at Jewrotica.org! For over a decade I have been teaching sex education, and I look forward to enlightening you on everything you wanted to know (but sometimes were too embarrassed to ask) about SEX, sexual health, and sexual pleasure.
There’s not a lot of straightforward discussion on these topics, is there? For instance, have you ever noticed all the euphemisms for the word “sex”? Shagging, screwing, nailing, banging, doing it, doing the nasty, getting busy, getting laid, and thanks to Jersey Shore, smushing. Have I caught your attention? These are just a few of the less than complimentary terms that have been used to mean “sex.” If that hasn’t got your attention and you still unable to make out what we mean, you could find visual representation over on a site like videoshd.xxx.
But it doesn’t stop there. What about all the slang terms used for penis and vagina? Dick, pecker, wiener, vajayjay . . .Even Yiddish has contributed “shtup” to the mix. We heard a lot of these slang terms growing up from our friends or on television and in the movies, but our parents weren’t really big on the straightforward language either. In fact, many parents (even these days) are ashamed to discuss sex or use anatomically correct language with their children, referring to their genitals as their wee wees, ho hos, pee pees, ding dongs, tuchas, and ta tas.
Why am I pointing out these terms? Because for many people, talking about SEX and genitals is associated with words that are considered dirty and violent or evoke feelings of embarrassment and shame. Furthermore, such demeaning language is associated with sexual harassment, negative attitudes toward men and women, and increased rates of body dissatisfaction.
Like Rambam, my goal is to reframe the dialogue we use when talking about sex and help you understand that sexuality is a positive part of our lives and has many wonderful benefits. These benefits include lowering stress, burning calories, getting a better night’s sleep and building pelvic floor muscles. Of course, there are eggs you can use for the latter (no, you cannot cook them!) but exploring your sexuality is a very fun way of doing it.If I have piqued your interest on any of these facts, I can write more about them in a later post. However, from a Jewish perspective, the real beauty of sexuality is God’s greatest gift of pleasure. This is a significant topic that I will discuss more deeply in a later post.
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Jewrotica is awesome. It expands the mind and for people who were raised with narrow views on sexuality. Whether you are Jewish or not, or in different sects of Judaism like Orthodox, Conservative or Reform, no matter what your background or where you’re from, Jewrotica gets you to see Judaism and how it relates to sexuality in new ways. I really appreciate Ayo being here and helping us learn different ways to connect with our sexuality.
I’m Heshy Fried from Frum Satire and I am very, very frum. And I completely support Jewrotica – it’s doing a service to the frum community. We need some sort of kosher sexual education. Jewrotica even has a system that allows frum filters to filter out certain things to make it PG for us. It’s mamish Torah. It’s like The Little Midrash Says for sex.
I love the inclusiveness – there is something for everyone, in and out of the Jewish community.
Learning about sex and what’s right and wrong when it comes to sex from a Biblical standpoint was an eye opening experience. I completely enjoyed it and think something like this could be a very cool thing to bring to even high school aged Jewish youth groups.
Bedside Reading with Jewrotica was funny, sexy, and hot all at once. The readings were honest about all kinds of sexuality, but the highlight of the evening was definitely the confessions, written by audience participants. Nobody knew who wrote them, and most were tell-alls that would make your bubbe blush. Unless your bubbe was very, very cool. Then maybe she’d make YOU blush!
Jewrotica is something that the community has needed for a long time so that people can actually learn, express and share and have good relationships without having to stumble through life. Check out the site and learn something. Have fun!
I’m into Jewrotica. I went in for my second circumcision.
Jewrotica was everything I had dreamed of and more: sexy attendees, tantalizing confessions, and well-written literature to boot! More importantly, it empowers us Jews to reach inside and own our sexy selves and heritage!
Such an amazing experience! The Sarah Lawrence Jewrotica workshop was more than I could have ever expected – a comfortable, safe, sultry environment where participants clearly felt good about sharing or listening to each other’s intimate experiences and relating them to sexy stories from the Torah. From the moment the workshop began, Ayo had a sweet presence that was kinetic and spread around the room; her storytelling abilities had everyone enraptured and made the conversation topics relata… Read more
At Jewrotica’s Evening of Bedside Readings, students declaimed monologues on sexual encounters that had a Jewish twist. At Columbia/Barnard Hillel, the speakers pushed their own boundaries by performing a range of explicit narratives that challenged how the audience thought of the relationship to Judaism and sex. During the speakers’ preparation, the arguments about which narratives would be appropriate forced students to take a stand and voice their opinion on their own beliefs about Judaism an… Read more
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