Sex with Jewrotica – An Introduction

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As you read through the posts on Jewrotica, it’s easy to see how people have various interpretations and stories for “sex.” As such, it becomes very important to define the various elements that encompass sexuality. Sexuality is about the “UALITY” (pronounced YOU-ality). The YOU-ality is about who YOU are and includes all the thoughts, feelings, and behaviors you have when it comes to being male or female and how that affects your relationships with others.

Sexuality is also understood by five guiding elements: sensuality, intimacy, sexual identity, sexual health and reproduction, and sexualization.**

Sensuality involves our level of awareness, acceptance, and enjoyment of our own or others’ bodies.

Intimacy is the degree to which we express and have a need for closeness with another person. Its components are caring, sharing, liking, loving, trust, vulnerability, self-disclosure, and emotional risk taking.

Sexual Identity is how we perceive ourselves as sexual beings. Its components are biological gender, gender identity, gender role, and sexual orientation.

Sexual Health and Reproduction relates to attitudes and behaviors toward our health and the consequences of sexual activity. Its components are behavior, anatomy and physiology, sexually transmitted infection, contraception, and abortion (spontaneous or induced).

Sexualization involves how we use our sexuality, which may include manipulating or controlling others. Its components are media images/messages, flirting, seduction, withholding sex, sexual harassment, incest, and rape.

When we become familiar with these five elements of sexuality, we learn to recognize which parts of our sexuality we are more comfortable with than others. For many people, their experiences around learning or reading about sexuality have been riddled with guilt and shame. The feeling of “guilt” can limit one’s sexual expression and erode the ability to fully connect with another person.

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Mara Yacobi is a Certified Sexuality Educator, Licensed Social Worker and Founder of JLove and Values. Mara lives in New Jersey with her family and dreams of becoming a talk show host and finding more hours in the day.