Sami and I began making plans once a week, meeting up after the last bus had run from my neighborhood to the city center. Once we walked through the marketplace at two a.m., going north from Agrippas to Yafo Street. I often pushed through the crowds during the day, but had never seen the stands naked and boarded up, or realized how wide the walkway was without streams of men in big hats and women whose bellies were huge and full with future.
Sami and I were quiet at first, but then we pointed out our favorite spots to each other, sharing tips for getting cheap pitas and the saltiest pickles. We took one of the small side passageways over to the covered market, and as we stepped onto the thoroughfare we heard a saxophone. Just around the corner a man was sitting outside of a stand that sold nuts and dried fruit during the day. A metal gate had been padlocked in front of the bins of produce, and the man’s folding chair was set up against the gate, his sax case shoved under his seat and the instrument tucked to the side of his legs. Next to him were three other men, holding a trumpet, a guitar and a flute.
As we stood there watching they tuned up and then began to play. The first song was spare and quiet – silence outlined by a few fuzzy notes from the sax – but they built up into songs that were faster and more playful. About ten other people were gathered, watching from their seats in ancient folding chairs they were dragging up from all around. More and more people joined the audience, until we were off to the side of a crowd of thirty, all listening to the sad sweet bossa nova the men were playing with a loose, calm grace. I felt the melody swinging lightly in my hips, and looked over at Sami to see what he thought. His eyes were guarded but wide; his lips parted slightly and dry from his slow deep breath. After a few more songs I touched his side and we moved down the walkway toward Yafo.
The following Wednesday night Sami took me to a cliff where we could see the whole of the messy, livid city below us, run through with walls. He chain-smoked Camels and told me he wanted to live in Canada where it got cold and there was nothing holding anyone in. Overhead something boomed, a sound huge enough that I caught a scream as it slipped out of my mouth. My eyes read the horizon for a series of red flashing punctuation marks and then Sami touched my arm and pointed up, where a jet was careening past, faster than sound and breaking all kinds of barriers. “You get used to it,” he said in Hebrew, and crushed out his cigarette.
The night before I left for Israel my brother Ari sat me down and told me not to become one of those seminary girls that all the yeshiva guys roll their eyes at. “Be careful not to be one of those girls who squeals and giggles whenever any of her friends walk into the restaurant, okay?” Ari said, sitting back against the desk chair in my room, surveying the stacks of folded clothes I had piled on everything. His hair was getting shaggy, and his kipah was clipped at a funny angle, all the way forward on his head and off center, so that it flopped a little to the right. “And don’t spend too much time on Ben Yehuda or Emek Refaim at all. Try to find real Israelis to hang out with.”
“As opposed to fake Israelis?” I said, offended that Ari was seriously warning me about this.
“You know what I mean. You’re going to Israel, so it would be nice if you met some actual Israelis and didn’t spend all your time with girls from New Jersey.”
“I’m not going there to hang out with my friends, anyway.”
“Good. I’m glad you know that. I’m just saying, lots of girls end up spending every Thursday night on Ben Yehuda eating ice cream and hoping some HaKotel guy will ask them out, and you shouldn’t be one of those girls.” He looked smug as he said this, his frame imposing and his smile obviously restrained.
“I can’t believe you think I ever would be.”
“I think you’ll probably change a lot this year, and I just wanted to warn you, because those girls are stupid, and I don’t want you caught up in that bullshit.” Ari scratched his chest through his University of Maryland t-shirt, and for a second the material bunched in a way that hid some of the letters so it read Marla.
“I’ll be fine,” I said, refolding a pile of long-sleeved shirts.
Celebrating 10 Years & Marking the End of An Amazing Project
Celebrating 10 Years & Marking the End of An Amazing Project
The Jewrotica event “Evening of Jewrotica: Bedside Reading” was awesome. As Master of Confessions, I got to read the deepest, darkest secrets of people in the room out loud… It was scintillating, titillating, and – yes – even educational!
Bedside Reading with Jewrotica was funny, sexy, and hot all at once. The readings were honest about all kinds of sexuality, but the highlight of the evening was definitely the confessions, written by audience participants. Nobody knew who wrote them, and most were tell-alls that would make your bubbe blush. Unless your bubbe was very, very cool. Then maybe she’d make YOU blush!
Jewrotica is something that the community has needed for a long time so that people can actually learn, express and share and have good relationships without having to stumble through life. Check out the site and learn something. Have fun!
Jewrotica is awesome. It expands the mind and for people who were raised with narrow views on sexuality. Whether you are Jewish or not, or in different sects of Judaism like Orthodox, Conservative or Reform, no matter what your background or where you’re from, Jewrotica gets you to see Judaism and how it relates to sexuality in new ways. I really appreciate Ayo being here and helping us learn different ways to connect with our sexuality.
I love the inclusiveness – there is something for everyone, in and out of the Jewish community.
I stepped out of my comfort zone to be a part of this. I was glad to open up the topic of sexuality in my community. We are trying to build a safe space to talk about sex. The result I am most happy about coming from this event is that hopefully now my friends know they can come and talk to me, that I can be their ‘safe space’.
Such an amazing experience! The Sarah Lawrence Jewrotica workshop was more than I could have ever expected – a comfortable, safe, sultry environment where participants clearly felt good about sharing or listening to each other’s intimate experiences and relating them to sexy stories from the Torah. From the moment the workshop began, Ayo had a sweet presence that was kinetic and spread around the room; her storytelling abilities had everyone enraptured and made the conversation topics relata… Read more
Jewrotica was everything I had dreamed of and more: sexy attendees, tantalizing confessions, and well-written literature to boot! More importantly, it empowers us Jews to reach inside and own our sexy selves and heritage!
What an incredible night Jewrotica was!!!! There was this fantastic moment, in a sea of Jews of all sexualities, ages, backgrounds and denominations, that I realized we were all in this together! I hope that there are many more events coming to Austin soon!
The people behind Jewrotica are quite quality! I have confidence that any project these folks take on will be equally quality.
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