Jewish Girl Seeks Goy
Written by C. Sender. C is a first-time Jewrotica writer.
I don’t want to marry a Jewish boy.
I am your proverbial nice Jewish girl—good family, good college, good grad school, good job—and I am single, and twenty-four, and I have no desire to find someone with whom I can compare notes on the number of great-uncles present at my Bat Mitzvah.
Don’t misunderstand: my religion is hugely important to me. In my struggle to understand my self-identity, Jewishness and femaleness continually battle it out for primacy. That’s a particular type of being Jewish, of course, as it is a particular type of being female. I am Reform, and I am a woman who strives not to need a man but hopes to be open to one.
In a certain way, being Reform complicates the problem. To me, a child of mine is Jewish only if I raise him that way. To me, my lineage is not enough to secure her Jewish identity. My Orthodox female friends may experience more familial pressure to marry that handsome boy from synagogue, but the view from here is that their system lets them off the hook. Where Judaism is concerned, their kids won’t have the choice.
So why don’t I long for the moment when my boyfriend can don a kippah that matches my bridesmaids’ dresses, and smash a glass while his mother shouts l’chaim? I think it has something to do with my understanding of love. To me, love enlarges and challenges. It makes me travel to different countries and learn different languages and meet different people—his home, his tongue, his family.
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